Digital communication created a complete new means of talking with each other: writing a back-and-forth dialog, through textual content message, typically in actual time. That is disembodied and dislocated speech—a textual content bubble and not using a comic-book character, as a result of the comic-book character … is you (gasp).
New methods of communication name for brand spanking new vocabulary, lexical caulk to fill within the cracks that type in language after we transport it over to a brand new residence. Once we began speaking by way of letters, we wanted Expensive and Yours actually to start and finish a prolonged dispatch to somebody current solely in our creativeness. When the telegraph allowed us to speak instantaneously, we wanted STOP to verify the recipient knew our sentences had been over. And now that we will textual content forwards and backwards from wherever, at any time, at a second’s discover, we appear to want, above all else, lol to guarantee that we’re totally understood. Lol.
This phenomenon is nothing new. Again in 2016, my colleague Megan Garber seen through a very revealing (pun supposed) Kim Kardashian Instagram put up that “her LOL features as, primarily, a punctuation mark.” In her article, Garber quotes language GOAT (and Atlantic contributor) John McWhorter’s watershed 2013 essay in lol research: Lols “sign fundamental empathy between texters. What started as signifying laughter morphed into easing pressure and creating a way of equality.That’s, ‘LOL’ now not ‘means’ something. Somewhat, it ‘does one thing’—conveying an perspective—simply because the ending ‘-ed’ doesn’t ‘imply’ something however conveys previous tense. LOL is, of all issues, grammar.”
Anybody who’s ever appended an lol to an “I’m going to be late” textual content is aware of precisely what McWhorter is speaking about. You’re under no circumstances signaling laughter, which could add salt to the wound of your tardiness. You’re saying: “I do know, traditional me, proper? I’m ridiculous; I’m irresponsible; I’m sorry.”
And although an analogous tone might be textually conveyed by way of a easy haha, a tactical lmao, or a well-chosen emoji, lol has endured above all as a versatile and adaptable little linguistic particle that makes textual content conversations really feel extra human. And as we’ve leaned on it increasingly to convey digital empathy, the time period has begun to unfold its semantic weight amongst a number of slight variations:
lol: The traditional, typically all-lowercase lol has grow to be a tonal punctuation mark with the flexibility to start or finish a sentence in a means that lends a heat sense of wry, empathetic bonhomie.
Lolllllll: The terminal l extension acts as an intensifier, propelling the lol again into the neighborhood of precise laughter—although not fairly. It’s form of like an excessive eye roll/head wag/scoff combo, indicating extra of an ironic “Oh brother!” than a straight-out guffaw. However I’d additionally hypothesize that the extra ls on the finish, the nearer this will get to a real chuckle.
lolololololol: The recursive lol, to me, is way nearer to speaking an precise snicker response. As with the terminal l extension, the extra recursions, the extra expressive it will get. With just a few, although—lololol, for instance—this one simply appears like a conversational pat on the again, a communication of bemused encouragement. It’s extra enthusiastic than lol and fewer droll than lolllll.
LOL: The uppercase, to me, signifies shock or shock—the text-message equal of opening your eyes actually extensive and dropping your jaw a bit.
LOLOLOLOL: The mix of recursion and capitalization achieves the closest impact to precise laughter.
General, although lol will help us regain among the which means that will get misplaced in translation in digital dialog, it pales compared to the semantic energy of bodily co-presence. Physique language, vocal tone, facial expressions—these carry hundreds of years of intuitive human which means that digital communication simply can’t convey.
Eight years in the past, throughout a tumultuous breakup, I wrote in huge letters on the duvet of my pocket book: “DON’T HAVE SERIOUS CONVERSATIONS OVER TEXT.” I stand by this dictum to at the present time. However when textual content conversations verge on gravity, lol has grow to be an indispensable device in holding it gentle. Therefore our Tuesday clue: “‘im not being critical,’ in a textual content.”